The Legacy Retreat Part III
February 2nd was a full day. Lots of laughter, love, sadness, grief, and healing. This day is what makes Inheritance of Hope what it is.
We woke up early to indulge in the tasty buffet. My mom went to church while we went to our sessions. She waited on us to be done before she drove home. Rob had managed to put together a picture of her and I in a frame to give to her. She’d had a fun time with us, but had some work waiting for her and she had no interest in going to Universal Studios.
I won’t discuss the sessions, but I will tell you that I brought up Camp Kesem. If you are unfamiliar with this organization, please look it up. Especially if you, a family member, or a friend has kid(s) and has been affected by cancer. My older kids will be going for their fourth year this summer. My kids always come back happier and more confident.
The kids threw eggs in their sessions.
They were to write something on the egg that scared them and throw it as hard as they could. If it weren’t so messy, this would be a great stress reliever in general. We might do this or something similar every once in a while at home.
To make it quick, we got on the bus, got our lunches, and landed at Universal Studios. It was super sunny and perfect for a fun time outside. What I have not mentioned previously is that Gabriel and I were going to be leaving the park at around 4. The boys were staying with our volunteers to play until they dropped. Or until 10.
IOH gave us a Gold Pass. I had no idea such a creature existed. This wasn’t even in the realm of a Fastpass. It was something different. We would stroll up to the person checking Fastpasses, show them the Gold Pass, and they would call an escort for us. Ho-ly cow. We were usually led to a door and taken to the ride through back hallways, allowing us to go ahead of the Fastpass and regular passes.
We went on Minions and Transformers. Max LOVED Transformers. We spent some time in Diagon Alley, then a lot more time in Hogsmeade. Jesse got his wand. We rode Escape From Gringott’s and went on Hagrid’s motorcycle ride twice. That ride is awwwwwwwesome. Poor Sam hit his head pretty hard while riding on it and was no longer so enthused about it.
Gabe, Max, and I went back to the hotel. Max was so worn out that he fell asleep on the bus. When we took him to the toddler area, they put a pillow down for him. He woke up enough to see the pillow and ran to it. For a little monster, he can be so cute. I suspect it is his survival mechanism.
Gabriel and I were scheduled for 4 things. The first item on our list was a visit with a counselor. This sounds like a weird start to a date night, but it helped clear the air. I am not so good at expressing myself. I hold my thoughts to myself as if they are precious stones. It’s kind of a Scorpio thing, I guess. I let Gabe take some of those stones and I left feeling lighter and he seemed happier that I had let him take some of the load.
We separated to get pampered. He got a massage and a new shirt. I had my makeup done, picked out some Kendra Scott pretties, and new clothes from Dillard’s. My makeup had taken up more time than it should have, so we were rushed to our next appointment.
The Legacy Video.
This is probably the most important thing that came from the retreat. I wasn’t sure I would be able to do this. I was afraid that it would just be 10 minutes of me weeping. This is the hardest thing in the world. I made a video, with Gabriel, for my family. It is a visual and auditory reminder of me: my face, my voice, my personality. It is something for my family to hold on to after I have left this plane of existence.
I got the courage to do it from our volunteers, many of whom had been served on previous retreats. I got the courage from videos of the children of parents who had passed. I got the courage from people who spoke about how much it meant to them to have something like this as a reminder of a loved one.
So I just started talking. I pulled up memories. Gabriel has been a part of my life for so long that he was able to talk about the same memories with me. The talking became easier and the anxiety just disappeared. I told my boys silly stories about things I had done. I told them about silly things they had done. I told them how proud I am of all of them. How so very talented each one is in his own way.
My heart felt so good after we had finished. I knew that I would have to rewrite the letters that I had originally written in my IoH application. I will have to write more than one letter to each person. It was an inspiring experience.
We were then sent to Bonefish Grill for our date. We shared our table with two other couples. We had good conversations and good food.
We met up with our kids when we got back to the hotel. I was worried that Max would be too refreshed to sleep, but he was ready for a full night’s sleep. The boys had had a lot of fun playing around at Universal. They had spent most of their time casting spells in Hogsmeade and Diagon Alley. They were totally satisfied with the day. Our poor volunteers look exhausted.
Someone once told me to learn something new everyday. I learned many new things on this day. It was a good day.