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Oh Hai

It has been forever since I have written a blog. Well, almost a year. Which is pretty much forever in internet time.

With my last post, I had started the Couch 2 5K program again. Which, to be honest, I did not keep up with very well. I do my best at the gym if I go in the morning. I also like to take it easy in the morning with a cuppa and some Daily Show from the night before. Sooo. Yeah.

Anyway, on to May. My husband and I found out we were expecting our next baby the day before Mother’s Day. We made the decision to keep it quiet due to the miscarriage from the year before. It was really pretty traumatic for me to have to tell everyone about that. I know that for some people, it is a healing thing to be able to share experiences like that. Not so for me. In fact, it took me nearly a full year to even be able to mention the loss.

We told our close family when we were about 8 weeks along and we made it public at about 12 weeks after my first midwife appointment. I am now 31 weeks along. This new baby is due in January. And has caused me issues every. single. step. of the way. I am not sure if it is because I am considered an older mom. Or it might be because this is baby #4. Or it might just be because every pregnancy is different.

Just after we found out we were expecting, I had to set up a doctor appointment to figure out what was going on with an extreme headache. It was so bizarre. I started to call it a head pain because it was not a typical headache for me. The focal point would move around my head and radiate out. I called my general practitioner when the pain moved toward the front of my head and made eating difficult. As I was pregnant, there was not a lot he could do for me. He was concerned enough that he contacted the women’s clinic to see if it was safe enough for me to go in for an MRI. Doing my bit of research, I used my mom to contact an OB from the Mayo Clinic to be sure an MRI would be ok. I went through with it. And I now have proof that my brain is normal.

Along with the head pains, I got to work through some food aversions. My morning sickness was more acute than it usually is, but since I had so many food aversions, my trips to the toilet resulted mostly in dry heaves. I survived mostly on salad and protein shakes. I couldn’t even look at eggs, pizza, cheese, milk, tomatoes, and the list goes on. All sorts of smells would send me running to the bathroom. I lost somewhere around 11 pounds. At 31 weeks, I am still dealing with some of these aversions. Sometimes I can eat scrambled eggs, sometimes I can’t.

Once the morning sickness started to fade, I guess my body decided I needed some other inconvenience. So, my relaxin hormone production went into overdrive. It took me awhile to figure this out. I had a cold at the end of August, early September (back to school crud, yay!). That incident led to me actually sneezing so hard that I popped a rib out-of-place. It was so painful that I went into the ER. I honestly had no idea what was going on. I just knew that I suddenly couldn’t breathe and was in huge amounts of pain. That was a particularly pricey visit just to have someone tell me that my rib was knocked out and the pain was from muscle spasms. I got it under control with heat, ice, and a chiropractor.

The first rib incident was actually a clue for me about the relaxin. My rib has now popped out 3 times and my hips are trying to disconnect from my leg bones. If you are not totally sure about what relaxin does, it pretty much matches its name. It relaxes the ligaments connecting the bones to allow movement for childbirth. Why my body is prepping so early, I have no idea. It has made it very uncomfortable to walk and I am on a lifting restriction. Sitting, standing, and laying down are all also very uncomfortable.

The good news for this pregnancy is that Baby is doing incredibly well. We found out at my 20 week ultrasound that Baby is a boy, so this will be boy #4 in our family. He will have no lack of clothes. Though they may be a bit worn. He is super active and is constantly pushing out on my belly.

Other good news is that I do NOT have gestational diabetes. Not that it matters since chocolate and some other sweets give me massive heartburn. I joke that this baby is forcing me to eat healthy. Well, I mostly joke. I would kill for a doughnut. This whole eating healthier has been beneficial seeing as how I am not up for pretty much any exercise. I have not gained back much of the weight I lost during my morning sickness. Baby is still growing very well, so he is definitely getting the nutrients he needs. If I did not have the constant pain, I would actually feel really good. I’ve even been enjoying the onset of the Braxton Hicks contractions. Well, except for the one that hit me when I was grocery shopping. Whew. That was came out of nowhere and left a lingering pain. My body is prepping to bring this guy earthside. After all the issues I have had, I am really looking forward to meeting this new person.

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Frustration

It’s been a long, long time since I last posted about my middle son, my Little Owl. He was delayed in his gross motor skills probably from birth, but it was not noticeable until he was 4 months old. He is now 4 years old. And he is still slightly delayed. And we still do not know why.

We just made a trip to a neurologist in Seattle. Who pretty much told us that, yes, there is something going on with Little Owl, and no, we still do not know why. Which is all stuff I already knew. We just spent $100+ (with help from the in-laws) on a trip to hear stuff we already knew. It is really becoming ridiculous. The docs in Seattle want to see us every 3 to 6 months only to tell us the same goddamn stuff every time. Just call me on the phone and bill my insurance for your time. Save me the gas, food, and lodging.

The neurologist IS ordering a slew of new tests. Which I am hoping our new insurance will cover. They have already denied the genetic test ordered by Little Owl’s biochemical geneticist. I’m not sure they are going to approve an MRI and a spinal tap.

Now, I see the improvements Owl has made. I just want to make sure he keeps improving. We do not necessarily need a diagnosis, but it would be handy to know what we are dealing with. Is it something that we are already treating correctly with the vitamins we are using? Is it something that could be helped with other medications? Are the vitamins actually doing anything? Could a change in diet help? These are questions we can’t answer because we have no clue what we are dealing with. It could be Congenital Myasthenia Syndrome. It could be a slight variation on Mitochondrial Disease. It could be a number of things.

Don’t get me wrong. My Little Owl is wonderfully perfect in his own way. His hypotonia will be with him for the rest of his life. I just want him to be able to understand it and be able to live alongside it. When his weakness hits, it hits hard. There have been times when he will lay down in the middle of a grocery store simply because he is so exhausted. He will literally play until he drops. I do not know of any other four-year-old who will ask for permission to take a nap (“Mommy, I am so tired. Can I please go lay down?”). And yes, I see you. You, right there. I have seen the judging looks you give to my child when he lays down in the store. When he wobbles his way up the stairs to go down the slide he loves to play on. I have learned a lot in living with Owl. I have learned not to judge too harshly or too quickly. We are getting better at living life in the moment, because the next moment may simply be exhaustion.

Oh Sammi

Me: “Sammi, we are going to have a new baby. How do you feel about being a big brother again?”

Sammi: “No. No. We don’t need another baby. We need a puppy.”

Hi. My name is Libby and I am a

complete and total carb addict. There. I said it. It’s out in the open for all to read and know. I say this because I have been having a huge problem controlling my urges. If you follow me on MyFitnessPal… you will notice I haven’t posted anything in a few weeks. It’s embarrassing. And a little confusing for me. I have to wonder if this is maybe a small taste of what a drug addict or gambling addict feel. I get an urge for cookies, chocolate, ice cream, etc. and it will not go away. It is all I can think about  and obsess over. Until I stuff my face full of shame. Then, I feel terrible. I’ve tried drinking water instead. Having an orange or banana (yes, I know bananas are full of carbs, but they are better for me than ice cream) only helps a little. So, I need help. I am asking my local friends to slap that scone out of my hand and my online friends to keep reminding me to do well. If you like, you can follow me on MyFitnessPal (username ravyneclipse) or I will do better about connecting up with my Facebook Page. Heck. Go ahead and Tweet me @runningmom1024.

I had been doing an awesome job and lost a bit of weight in the span of about 2 weeks (6 lbs). I’m not sure what happened that caused me to just fall off the healthy wagon. Whatever the cause, I need to scramble back on. I felt sooo good during that time. Now I feel awful. So, back to the gym, back to C25K, back to MyFitnessPal, back to menus, and daily exercising.

On a somewhat related note, my body has rebelled against me. I firmly believe it is because I have not kept up with my exercise regimen. I hurt my shoulder over a week ago. I can hardly lean over the tub to wash my kids. It is slowly getting better, but dang it hurts. Even sitting here at the computer is a little bit of torture.

So yes, I desperately need to do the right and healthy thing for myself. And because I still want to look great for my Boston Trip in August. I’ve thought of this as Project Boston, but I don’t want to stop after my Boston trip. Maybe Project Libby would be better.

Needing a good kick.

I have been unhealthy. Very unhealthy, lately. I am working on fixing this. I am pretty sure that what I have been doing is stress eating. I can’t seem to get enough carbs/sugars. The problem with this is that sugars are addicting and can lead to an eating pattern like the one I currently find myself in. So, I need to break the cycle. I need to find healthier snacks that will help take the edge off of the sugar cravings.

I also need to get on a more regular exercise schedule. I have been running a couple times per week, but I need to get better with it. I am going to register to run the Bloomsday Race in May. I only have little more than 3 months to be able to run a 12k. I can currently run 2 miles with little problem. I’m slow, but I can do it. In the past I have done 3 miles. too was going to sign up for the Gold’s Gym 12 Week Challenge again, but we are trying hard to be frugal. It is only $25 for members, but that is $25 I can put towards our dinners. I already feel like I am spending too much with having a gym membership. Which is why I do try to use it.

So, I have come up with a tentative plan:

  • Blog at least once per week. If I have to talk to people about what I have been doing, I usually make better decisions.
  • Really get on track with C25K. I figure once I get my stamina up for a 5K, working towards a 12K will be the next step.
  • Keep to my workout schedule. I make a new one each month when the new schedule comes out and tweak it with how life changes that schedule.
  • Make a weekly menu. In case it might not be apparent, I tend to be a list-oriented person. I like the challenge of trying to complete what I have set up. With a menu, I will make and eat what I have written down. Therefore, if I have a healthy menu, I will then eat healthier.

So, I have my plan. I tried to keep it simple and not too daunting. Later, I will post my exercising schedule. Gold’s has a ton of new classes coming out this weekend, so I am waiting for an updated class list. Then I will post it on here. That way I will be held accountable to keep up with it for the 5 readers I have 😉

On a parenting note: Sam did GREAT today in the kid care area at our local grocery store (ALL grocery stores should offer this – the kids are happy and the parents are not ripping out their hair by the time they are done shopping. This is a big deal because any other time I have tried to leave him with other people, he screams the whole time I am not there. So, this is a welcome breakthrough. I am thinking of testing it out at our gym tomorrow. *crossing fingers* All I plan on doing for exercise tomorrow is running.

Well, that is it for now. I feel better now that I have this actually written down.

That Crazy Girl Did What?!?! Without Drugs??!!!

I had a totally natural, stressless home birth. No drugs. Only my warm pool of water. I did it! Of course, I only did what females have been doing since mammals started having live births. Still, I am pretty proud of myself. I look at my beautiful new boy and think, “I did that. In MY home.”

The labor went pretty quickly. I started having light contractions on Nov 8 at about 4:30 am. I waited for an hour before calling my midwife, just to make sure they weren’t going away. She showed up around 7ish. I transitioned from light to hard at around 9:30 am. That would be when I went from being able to kind of talk to having to absolutely toning out everything. That was when I decided to get into the birthing tub. That warm water was an immediate relief. I felt so much more comfortable. I went into hard labor shortly after 11 am and baby J was born at 11:11 am IN MY HOME. Gotta admit – just as he started to crown, I started to have doubts that I could do this. Heh. A little late for those. I was so shocked to suddenly see a baby in the tub with me. I scooped him up myself. He did have the cord around his neck, but the midwife very quickly took care of that and he was fine. He started nursing like a pro before the placenta made an appearance.

I also had a wonderful support group on hand:

  • My husband. I can’t say enough about him. He was awesome. He also hurt the next day from being in an awkward position in order to let me hug him while I was in the tub heh.
  • C~ acted as a doula for me. She reminded me to breathe and to make lower sounds. The lower the moan, the easier it was to get through the contraction – on a more spiritual level, it helps to open up the chakras and get the energy flowing. I suppose it was less of a moan and more of an “Om” chant.
  • D~ took my birth pictures. She took over 400 pictures. It was awesome. I really owe her more than I could ever give to her for doing that for me.
  • My midwife and her assistant. They were both awesome.
  • Both of my mothers-in-law. I love them so much.

I do wish my mommy could have been there with me. It’s hard when she is 3000 miles away. This is another reason I was glad for the pictures. I get to share the birth with her through them.

I am also excited about sharing the pictures with my dad and stepmother. I know they wanted to be here and will not get to see J until April.

J is now 1 month old and growing like a weed. He is already so strong and so very alert. My milk came in about 2 days after he was born. This was really great. It had been a struggle with my previous two. There was lots of pumping and I had to supplement as they both lost too much weight. I have not looked at studies, but I suspect my previous issues with breastfeeding had to do with being induced. I now have so much milk coming in that I pump every once in a while just to have some extra on hand so I can go out for a few hours. We have experimented with a bottle to make sure he was ok with that. He is. If food comes out when he sucks on it, he seems fine with it. Greedy little leech.

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The birthing tub.

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Working through a lighter contraction.

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Contractions are getting harder.

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The hard labor begins.

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Freshly made baby!

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Baby J.

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Getting ready to be weighed.

I have not abandoned you!

I have been busy. Also, I have not been able to get on my regular computer very much at all. If any of you have ever tried to type a full post on an iPod or iPhone, then you may forgive me for not giving more updates. I have been stewing in a few ideas these past few months. I like my idea of posting about healthy, cheap meals and that idea + my pregnancy have led to posting about healthy, cheap, diabetic-friendly meals. I have not been diagnosed with gestational diabetes, yet, but it is on my mind. I will be tested for it at my next prenatal visit. *crossed fingers* I have tried to be healthier for this pregnancy, but I am also aware of the stats. Once you have already had gestational diabetes, you are more likely to be diagnosed with it in your next pregnancies. So, I have been munching on protein-rich foods and have tried to curb those dumb cravings for chocolate… Not too successfully. And dammit, sometimes you just need a candy bar.

This pregnancy has been very uncomplicated and is going smoothly, so far. No bleeding, no cramps, no scares. The ultrasound pics showed us a very healthy baby and proved my due date to still be around Nov 10th, 11th, 12th area. I have been doing mostly good with keeping up with exercising. Until 2 weeks ago, I had been able to make regular trips to the gym for swimming, and I have kept up with walking and hiking. I had to stop running about a month ago. My lungs couldn’t keep up with me, even on easy jogs. I will just keep up with my walking and restart the C25K program after baby is born.

Now for a bit of controversy. I am planning to home birth this baby. Before I start getting nasty comments, I have done the hospital birthing with my 2 older boys. I grew weary of the rushing to get that baby out with the last one. They were not overall terrible experiences, I just started to put a little more thought into how I wanted my birth experience to be. I also discovered I do not feel comfortable in a hospital setting for more than a day. I had thought I wouldn’t mind it too much as I practically grew up in a hospital (mom was a nurse), but I just want to get home as soon as that baby gets out of me.

So, after thinking through these thoughts, I started to do some research on home births. Home births are, for the most part, extraordinarily safe. Midwives, at least the ones in my area, will NOT consider working with mothers who have high-risk pregnancies, most will not work with twins, and most will not work with mothers who are having very large babies. These are cases where a doctor’s care is needed and quite possibly a hospital setting. Midwives are not against hospitals and doctors, hospitals and doctors just have their place. So, I now have a wonderful mid-wife who is also a naturopathic doctor. As a doctor, she is also able to bill my insurance, which is one less thing for me to worry about. She has set my husband mostly at ease with the idea of a home birth. We do live only about 10-15 minutes from our hospital and she is prepared in case of any emergency that may require us to rush there. A WA state midwife also has a pretty extensive list of what to bring to a birth:

I have also heard the “what if the cord is wrapped around the neck?” question. Yes, it happens. No, it is actually not always an emergency. An experienced midwife will quickly and efficiently take care of that.

“What about the pain?” Well, pain is a part of it. Even with a hospital birth, there will be pain. Get over it, accept it. There are ways to ease it without the use of an epidural (I still feel pain in the area my last epidural went in, btw): warm baths, back rubs, using a yoga/pilates ball, meditation, and in one of my favorite birth stories, singing. I am actually looking forward to experiencing the pain. I was induced with both of my previous births and the pain from the pitocin was pretty unbearable. I had experienced natural contractions with my 2nd kiddo, until the docs wanted it to go faster. The natural contractions were uncomfortable, but not even in the same class as the forced contractions. It was this second birth that really made me look at what I  wanted. If I had been more educated and maybe even a little more willful, I think I would have told the docs to wait. Baby was getting ready on his terms, there really was NO need to rush it. However, I was tired of being pregnant and I was excited by the idea of finally meeting this new one face-to-face. I just need to exercise patience.

Hmm. This blog post has taken me 3 days to write. Mostly because I can not type when Sammi is awake. He is such a button-pushing monkey. He is no longer allowed in the office heh. I had a lot more to write about, but those things will have to be put into a blog of their own.

The Big Check-In

So, last Saturday I had my 6 week check-in for the Gold’s Gym 12 Week Challenge. Not great news, but not terrible, either. I lost a few pounds and a few inches. However, I also lost some muscle. Doh! Not at all what I was going for. However, I will go into more detail about how that came about later on. For now, I will post my stats:

Before:

Weight: 170.8 lbs
BFI: 30.1
Waist: 36
Hip: 42
Thigh: 20

Now:

Weight: 167.8
BFI: 29.5
Waist: 36
Hip: 41
Thigh: 20
Not a huge difference, but a little.

Now, the reason this bit of difference doesn’t bother me is because it would appear that I am pregnant. Yay! I found out a few days after my weigh-in. I have decided to stay in the Challenge, not for weight loss, but to remain on a healthy schedule. I want this pregnancy to be healthier than my last one. I am hoping to keep diabetes away with a healthy diet and exercise regime. I really want to have a home birth with this one. I have done the hospital birth with my other two. I want to experience it on a more personal level. The healthier I am, the fewer complications I should have during pregnancy. Now, I will need to cool it with some of the classes in the near future. For now, here is my current work-out plan:

Mon: 9:30 buoyancy Burn/9:30 BodyPump/swimming (Sammi usually has therapy at 11, so I will most likely be swimming laps)
Tues: Running
Wed: weights + cardio/11 am Yoga
Thurs: Running
Fri: 9:30 BodyFlow/weights + cardio/swimming
Sat: 9:30 BodyCombat/Running
Sun: Hike/Walk

I want it noted that I am not just starting up on this exercise routine! I have kept up with my exercises 3 – 5 times per week. A pregnant woman should NEVER just start-up a physically taxing schedule if she is not used to it. It is harmful to her and to her baby.

I also plan to keep up with MyFitnessPal. Also, as mentioned above, not to lose weight, but to keep myself on a healthy diet. I will be changing my settings so that I will be getting slightly more calories. I have NO intentions of starving or harming this little baby in way, shape, or form. MyFitnessPal is able to tell how much more I need of certain vitamins, proteins, etc., and it will at the same time let me know if I have had too much of something. Love that app/website.

I also have an idea that has been brewing in my mind. I am going to start a page listing healthy, inexpensive recipes. Preferably easy ones. I got the idea from One Hungry Student. This blog is a group of college students posting cheap-o eating ideas. I remember my ramen days. Too well. I really wish I had had the knowledge then that I have now regarding cooking. And nutrition. So, that will be a future project.

While I am checking in, I will also give an update on my boys:

Sol is really making me proud. He is doing AWESOME in school. He reads about a book a day. I am loving it. Right now, he is in a challenge to read 10 hours to win theme park tickets (to a theme park we are already going to this summer – woot!). He has already read over 8 hours and there are still 20 days left in the contest. He has really become a great big brother. His little brother looks up to him. They both have a lot of fun playing games.

Sam is making strides in his therapy. He was recently given new goals since he has way surpassed his old ones. He still has a little catching up to do, but he is working on it. He has finally broken out of the 2% range for weight. He is now in the 10% range. He still looks too chubby to me to be that low, but whatever. He is healthy and he is happy.

Get Off Your Broom Week 2

Week 1 Overview

Ok. My first week did not go too well. I did alright with the food. No fast food and no ice cream. However, I did have a few breakdowns with chocolate. I will be discussing this issue a bit further down. I also had a horrible 24 hour flu or food poisoning thing. I spent my Thursday running for the bathroom and for a while I actually stayed in the bathroom curled up on the floor. It was painful and awful.

Measurements:

I decided that I would only be doing weight on a weekly basis. I will do the other measurements on the first Saturday of each month.

Weight: 170 lbs.

-2 lbs!

Week 2 Challenge

“This weeks mini-challenge is to research ways to take control of your emotional eating. First you need to identify when you emotionally eat. Remember the 5 W’s from English class: who, what, when, where, why? Who are you eating with, what are you eating, when are you eating it, where are you eating it, and why are you eating it. Once you’ve done that think of things to do instead of eat. If you need to, do some research on the Internet or read some books on the subject. Then in next week’s check-in, report on what you learned, especially what you learned about yourself!” From The Domestic Pagan.

I am an emotional eater. I am also a bored eater. I also eat because I very much enjoy food. Now on to identifying my bad eating habits:

Who: If I emotionally eat, it is alone. Almost as if what I am doing is shameful.

What: Hmmm. Lately it seems to be candy bars (mostly cuz that is what is around). I will scrounge around until I find something sweet: granola bars, chocolate chips, licorice, ice cream, banana bread, pumpkin bread, and so on.

When: Usually when everyone else is asleep. As I mentioned above, I eat like this when no one else is around.

Where: Home

Why: To the meat of the subject. Why? How about I just concentrate on this week. The week started off with a pretty awful letter from a family member. I took my youngest to Seattle Children’s Hospital for follow-up appointments and more blood work. I tried to go to the gym: drove 30 minutes to get there, couldn’t get any exercising in because Sammi would not stop crying, got really frustrated on the way home. I got that horrible stomach thing that I think I passed on to Sam today (his symptoms are more mild than mine were, thankfully). These were the abnormal stressors this week. I also have my normal ones associated with household care: laundry, dirty cloth diapers, what to make for dinner, shopping for dinner, keeping the kids on schedule, cleaning house, etc.
I suppose, looking at the way my weeks normally go, and the way this one was, I think I stress eat alone because that is the time I enjoy for myself. And the time I want to have enjoyment. I enjoy food.

This week, I am going to find a replacement for my alone time food. Maybe carrots with hummus/half apple with peanut butter/slice of cheese/etc. and a cup of herbal tea. Peet’s Xiao’s Blend is one of my favorite teas and would be a perfect choice before bed. I also think it is important to have something with protein before bed, hence the hummus, peanut butter, and cheese choices. I am also going to work on a menu for the week. I may start putting up a menu next week as I need to work with the household to figure out dinner choices. I am also going to get better about my exercising. I was ill last week, so I need to be sure to keep it up this week.

 

 

 

 

 

 

A Mid-Week Update

Until today, I had done well with my meal plan. Today… I just couldn’t seem to resist chocolate. One day of indulgence isn’t too bad. I just need to be sure to control my impulses for the rest of the week. I am looking forward to my run tomorrow. I wasn’t able to run on Tuesday. We had doctors’ appointments and Sammi needed more blood work done. Bleh. However, I did walk all around Pike Street Market. If you haven’t been there, it is a huge place. It was my first time seeing it. I don’t know what I expected, but it wasn’t that lol. I enjoyed myself and Sammi seemed pretty interested in all the goings-ons as well.

I have changed gyms. I decided it was not worth my time to drive all the way out to my old gym only to get in maybe 10 minutes before the nursery calls me in to take care of Sam. My new gym has all the same classes, is nearly $40 less per month, is 5 minutes from my house (rather than 30 minutes), and I can receive passes to visit other gyms across the country (will be handy when I visit my bro and mom in December). I will miss the indoor track. A treadmill really isn’t the same as running on the ground. However, I haven’t even been going to the gym to run. I have been going to the animal shelter walking paths. So, I think it all works out. If the weather is really too poor for me to run outside, I can use a treadmill every once in a while.

 

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